Lessons in Love: Inspired by Movies

January 24, 2024

Dr. Rahul Rangan (he/him/his), from India, is a medical practitioner by profession, an over-thinker by force and a musician by passion. He believes in healing through kindness. An extension of which is his self-produced album focused on tackling social issues, an orchestration through catharsis. He wants to build a world where kindness is palpable, love is embraceable, and acceptance is breathtaking. A world where open and honest discussions will help alleviate anxiety. A world where a flood of people come together to celebrate love and identity. A world where bravery highlights the importance of community and togetherness. His Anchor: “You like because, and you love despite. You like something because of all of its qualities, and you love something despite some of its qualities.” You can follow his journey of self-healing and acceptance on Instagram at @rahulrangan And learn more about him via his website: https://rahulrangan.com

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In the grand theatre of life, movies have often served as my guide. I imagine myself as the protagonist in them and through that, I’ve learnt that love is flawed. Both internally and externally. 

In my journey, filled with trepidation in discovering what it truly means to love and be loved, movies have imparted significant wisdom. There are numerous that come to mind, true cinematic gems that I resonate deeply with, yet I bring about two which have found a special place in my heart and life. 

Starting with the demise of a relationship, I draw inference from the movie Someone Great. A melodic reminder tugs the strings of my oncebroken heart. It goes like this: “When something breaks, if the pieces are large enough, you can fix it. Unfortunately, sometimes things don’t break, they shatter. But when you let the light in, shattered glass will glitter.” This quote has acted like a balm for my wounded soul, encapsulating the essence of healing and finding beauty in the broken. 

In love, misunderstandings and conflicts often render us broken. Yet, it’s in those fractured shards that we find opportunities for growth and healing. Fracture healing, whether in bones or emotions, bears a resemblance in its journey toward betterment. Just as broken bones mend gradually, emotional fractures demand time and patience. It involves acknowledging the pain, permitting oneself to grieve, and embracing small steps towards restoration. Each shard, when illuminated by the light of forgiveness, will reflect the beauty of what was and what can be again.

Followed by the movie Set It Up, which acts as a lighthouse for navigating the intricacies surrounded by the layers of like and love. “You like because, and you love despite. You like someone because of all of their qualities, and you love someone despite some of their qualities.” Unveiling the delicate balance between appreciation and acceptance.

In the initial stages, we’re drawn to someone because of their qualities (humour, intelligence, charisma, etc.). As the relationship matures we face the imperfections within ourselves, those within our partner, and jointly our relationship. It’s in this phase that true love manifests. Loving someone despite their flaws, acknowledging their shortcomings, and embracing the entirety of who they are, opens the floodgates for genuine affection.

Now, drawing the curtains to a close on this reel of reflections, I’ve come to embrace a newfound perspective on love. Beyond the allure portrayed on celluloid lies a deeper truth – one whispered in the silent spaces between heartbeats.

So, as credits roll and the echoes of cinematic wisdom linger, I hope we all move forward with a renewed embrace of love’s complexities. And as the next scene unfolds, let’s embark on this journey with a heart full of understanding, ready to script our own unique stories that shine amidst the flaws and fractures, with a genuine melody of affection.

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