3 Tips for Self-Kindness

August 15, 2022

By Emma Vrabel

Emma Vrabel (she/her/hers) is a rising sophomore at Harvard. She is majoring in Sociology and plans to attend law school, with the eventual aspiration of working in disability rights law. Emma is a co-founder of the Harvard Undergraduate Disability Justice Club, where she advocates to make Harvard a more accessible and equitable space. She is also co-president of the Harvard womens’ wrestling team.

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Showing others kindness is something we hear about often, and it is deeply important. But it’s hard to be kind to those around us when we aren’t showing kindness to ourselves. My hope is that these three tips can help you take small, measurable, but incredibly significant steps towards making your mind and body feel like a gentler, safer place to live in!

1. Complete a small act of kindness for yourself.

Showing yourself kindness doesn’t have to be something that takes a lot of effort, time, or money. It can be as simple as choosing to wear an outfit you feel good in because you deserve to be comfortable, or listening to a favorite song.

2. Practice positive self-talk

As helpful and comforting as it is to hear others reassure us, we are the most consistent and impactful source of information about who we are. Positive self-talk can look like writing down traits you like about yourself, or thinking about moments that made you feel proud of yourself.

Positive self-talk can be difficult to practice, but it can make a huge difference!

3. Take it one step at a time!

When I’m feeling overwhelmed, one of the kindest things I can do for myself is to remind myself that I’m capable. Try writing down small and doable tasks, and celebrate their completion. The tasks can be as small as brushing your teeth or making your bed, and as big as applying for a new job or program.

The beauty of showing yourself kindness is that you can tailor it exactly to what you need. As long as you feel like you’ve done something meaningful for yourself, you’re doing it right!

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