Today is World Suicide Prevention Day and our #BeKind21 message is brought to you by our partners at Active Minds with tips for how to check in with those around you.

Looking back, was there a time when things were difficult and someone reached out to you, just when you needed them most? A conversation can be life-changing. It’s not about knowing exactly what to say, it’s about being kind – and being there.

We want to change the conversation around about mental health with young adults and suggest that young people follow these steps: Validate – Appreciate – Refer (or V-A-R).

V-A-R is an everyday guide to everyday struggles, keeping a bad day from turning into a crisis. The steps will help to actively listen to someone you care about, and help them cope or bounce back. Your presence, an expression of your kindness, could make all the difference and prevent a crisis from developing later. Validate: “That sounds difficult!” Appreciate: “Thank you for telling me.” Refer: “I’ve been using this meditation app that really quiets my thoughts.”

Your kindness challenge today: Be kind to your loved ones who need you most, and change the conversation about mental health. For more resources, go to activeminds.org/var.

P.S. Invite a friend to join the challenge: bornthisway.foundation/bekind21.